Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum
Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum focusses on attachment disorders and helping children/teens of all ages re-attach in a healthy manner. Soul-Care™ addresses the many ways past trauma, left unattended, manifests itself in an adopted child/teen’s behaviors now and in the future.
Goal of Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum
Soul-Care™ helps parents create healthy emotional attachments for their child. The ability to attach is broken when a child experiences trauma as an orphan or prior to becoming an orphan. The central goal of Soul-Care™ is to help parents guide their child/teen from brokenness to wholeness and discover God’s purpose for their lives.
Uniqueness of Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum
Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum is a Christian based curriculum that offers more than just information and advice. It is not a concept, workbook, book, etc. It is a concrete, results-oriented therapeutic approach to parenting a child/teen of trauma and creating healthy attachment.
It helps parents learn how to apply its wisdom to their unique situations. It provides concrete methods using tangible, Therapeutic Resource Tools. It’s not information for a parent’s tool belt, it IS a tool belt.
Therapeutic Resource Tools
Tangible, Concrete Therapeutic Resource Tools are part of the Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum and are proven to:
- Accelerate understanding of the root of a child/teen’s attachment issues that create negative responses and behaviors
- Equip parents to handle specific, unique challenges as they arise on an incident by incident basis.
- Provide specific strategies using tools that are easy to apply at a moment’s notice
- Incorporate mobile tools that can be used in any environment
Root of Behaviors
Parents will learn which specific negative behaviors of a child/teen are a reflection of their past trauma. Negative behaviors are most likely rooted in other underlying issues and are usually not obvious to the parent.
Effective Parental Responses
Did you know that putting your adopted child into ‘time-out’ can feed further detachment through isolation? Discipline approaches for biological children are not always the same for adopted children. Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum lists effective parental responses for common negative behaviors in adopted children.
- Hoarding Food
- ADHD, Learning Differences and Developmental Delays (Social and Academic)
- Resisting appropriate affection (such as a parent’s hug)
- Failure to follow rules or instructions
- Fear and Anxiety
- Inappropriate Behavior
- Rebellion and Defiance
- Physical Aggression
- Lack of Motivation
- Relationships with birth children and other adopted children
- Inappropriate Sexual Behavior
- Social Media and Electronic Device Management
- Social Skills
Commitment and Consistency are KEY
When caregivers of any kind (fathers, mothers, step-parents, etc.) practice the Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum on a committed and consistent basis, they address the needs of all ages of adopted children.
This is a marathon, not a sprint!
Soul-Care™ as a Christian Adoption Therapeutic Curriculum
In addition to being a proven therapeutic program, Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum is based on Biblical principles which include the unconditional love and grace modeled by Christ. We believe that Christ desires each of us to live in wholeness, so that we can reach our God-given potential and live our lives for His glory.
Attachment disorder vs Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)
Attachment disorder and RAD have similar negative behavioral characteristics. Attachment disorder can turn into RAD at some point depending on the depth of trauma, detachment, rejection and abandonment.
RAD is a clinical diagnosis, and for the purposes of Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum and Seminars, we use the term ‘attachment disorder’. Some children may have RAD but co-author, Missy Shaw, does not provide clinical diagnoses outside of a professional contract.
Soul-Care™ Therapeutic Curriculum can be effectively used with children who have been diagnosed with RAD. However, it may take longer and will need extreme consistency. Additional intervention and professional resources may be necessary. See Mayo Clinic’s definition of RAD in FAQ’s.
About the co-authors
Missy Shaw is a licensed professional counselor that has been in private practice for over 18 years. Missy started her professional career as a special education teacher focusing on behavior disorders and mental illness in children while working at the Psychiatric Hospital at Vanderbilt and in Metro Public Schools. For the past 15 years, Missy has focused her private practice on family issues and healing trauma. Missy has been happily married for 20 years and is the mom of two teenagers.
Deneen Turner is an adoptive parent and Co-Founder and President of HopeHouse International®. Over the last 29 years, Deneen has been a leader among American organizations and churches in her work with orphan issues and orphan care missions. Her focus has been aiding Christian families in Eastern Europe to rescue orphans from orphanages by adopting them and raising them in their own country. Deneen and Mark have been married for 22 years and adopted their son from Ukraine in 1999.